How to Maintain a Work, Life, Wedding Planning Balance
At first, wedding planning is so exciting! You can so clearly picture yourself enjoying the happiest day of your life with the most important people of your life! The absolute love of your life is by your side, and you totally have this! Unfortunately, you still have to get up to go to work tomorrow, and when you wake up after pinning gorgeous wedding images until 4 am and need to present Q1’s projections, meet with your most important client, or perform surgery, you suddenly realize that you may not have the energy to make it through to wedding day!
It happens! Somewhere along the line, everyone gets burnt out on planning their own wedding! When you are planning your wedding, it is the most important day of your life! That pressure is very real! The stakes are high, the emotions are high, and the work load is high and meticulous!
So take a step back, take a deep breath and turn your wedding brain off for a few minutes. Before you can even approach how to balance weddings with your life, you need to give your brain a break. Let it be you, not the ultimate bride of the year! Then start to think of what your life was like pre-wedding. How much time each week was devoted to work? How much time was devoted to working out? How much time did you spend in your relationships? When is your energy naturally the highest? Are you a morning bird or a night owl? Do you like to veg out on Sunday or do you like to get out and do an activity?
Now, reconstruct your schedule filling in the things you can’t give up:
1) Your work! Weddings don’t pay for themselves so your work commitments come first. Make a mental note on what your workday is like and how you feel after work. If Wednesdays are a tough day for you, keep that in mind when assembling the rest of your schedule! If spring is the busy season, prepare to slow down everything else when that season hits!
2) Plan your workout! Your body needs you to take care of it! Maintaining the you time of yoga, a run, a bike ride, or a work out class is 100% necessary. If you have a solid schedule, make sure you keep it! If you don’t, have one make one which includes at least 3 days of working out each week at the same time on the same day of the week.
3) Relationships are super important! Especially the one with your fiance! If you have a standing date night, make sure that never gets cut or replaced with wedding planning. Make sure you also see your friends on a regular basis at the same rate you did before! Planning ahead can make your time together more efficient. Bottom line a food tasting is just not a dinner date and dress shopping is not a girls night!
4) Recharge your batteries! You need to have one full day a week that is dedicated to recharging your batteries! Whether it is a spa day, a walk through your city, or doing nothing at all, you need a day where you aren’t thinking about work or weddings!
5) Now plan in your wedding planning time! Make sure you are wedding planning during times when you have high energy and you aren’t exhausted from work. Make sure it is part of your schedule! Maybe you spend 15 minutes when you are waking up in the morning scrolling through instagram looking at pictures and sending inquiry emails before you get out of bed. Perhaps you dedicate Saturday mornings to putting your wedding together. Whatever you decide, makes sure you have the time carved out of your schedule on a regular basis.
6) Look forward at the engagement period ahead! Is this do-able for you? Can you plan a whole wedding in the time you have available? If not look at making your engagement a little longer or hiring a wedding planner so that you maximize the time you do have available.
It takes on average 250 hours to plan a wedding. If you aren’t normally throwing major life event parties, be sure to add in a extra time to research things like what is the difference between a place card and an escort card? or what does the officiant wear? Additional hours may also be required if you are planning a more detailed, luxurious, and personalized affair.
Over the course of one year, that is at least 3 hours per week. If you don’t have the time, utilize the 15 minutes a week that you do have to the things only you can do such as creating the guest list, meeting with your planner, and suit/dress fittings.
What are those 3 hours worth to you?
When hiring anyone to do a job, I know I can do myself, I like to break down my salary into an hourly rate and multiply that by the number of hours the job would take me and that is my budget to get the job done. For instance if my work paid me $50 per hour, and I would set my budget for a wedding planner at $12,500.
Work with a planner to set up a situation that works for you and brings you peace.
7) Stick with your schedule! Sometimes, life doesn’t work out perfectly! Perhaps the florist needs to hop on the phone with you during your lunch hour which causes you to work late and miss your yoga class. Don’t let this just “be the way the cookie crumbled”. Give yourself that time back and take a yoga class during the time you allocated for wedding planning and return balance to your life.
8) Accept help when you need it! There may be a moment where the world feels like it is all crashing and burning at once! Don’t let the world be on your shoulders. Take breaks when you need them and delegate things that feel like you can’t handle to your support team. Listen to your body and take a break when you need to.
9) Always remember that the most important part of your wedding is you and your fiance! If you two are happy with each other, it will make for a magical wedding!